Dissolution

My brother has agreed to the dissolution and is working with my parents on getting things figured out. I feel so bad for him. I just want him to put this all behind him and start fresh.

I am absolutely exhausted today. Not only have I been adjusting to this new schedule for the job, and the 20 minute hike from the parking garage to my office, but we have had something going on every night this week after work. Tonight is no different. On the way home I have to stop and pick up stuff to make a giant sub sandwich for the Halloween party we have to go to tonight, put together my stupid costume, get Madeline dressed in her adorable Winnie the Pooh costume, and I'm sure, run around and help Jerry get ready. Crazy busy. I do not plan on staying at this party late. I am so tired. I could hardly stay awake on the drive in this morning. Thank goodness we don't have too much going on Sat. Sunday is Maddy's first trick-or-treat. She is just too cute for words.

Oh well, gotta run. Work to do today. I love being at the children's hospital. There are so many fun things I get to do. This week, my very first week, I met a pro football player that came in to visit some patients, and today I get to help out with the Ritz Carlton Pumpkin Parade! How fun is that?

Psycho Drama Continues

She emailed my dad yesterday. It was this huge long drama story trying to explain herself. Too bad nobody buys her act anymore. My mom talked to her mom last night... Apparently this is not as surprising as you might think...

Way back before PIL met my brother I guess there was some other BS going on that led her mom to kick her out when she was 18. She then went to college, where she had to borrow a bunch of money from her aunt that she never paid back. Then a few laters she got a car from a family member that she never paid for. Got a car from her mom that she never paid for. At one point she lived with her ex-stepdad, and he kicked her out. Her sister lived with her for a while, and that didn't work out either. All because she lies and manipulates people. Her mom is a basket case with apologies. She told my mom that she tried to talk PIL out of the wedding and everything b/c she knows how she is... psycho. She told my mom that she's tried to help a whole bunch of times through the years and she just doesn't know what to do with her anymore.

Crazy. She put on a really good show for a really long time with my family, and I am just in shock and how manipulative and distrusting she really is... Just goes to show that we should've tried harder to convince my brother that our gut instincts were right. None of us ever really liked her, but we tried hard for my brother's sake.

We are all just done with her. Whatever happens, happens. I told her that I just want her to leave my family alone, and if she doesn't, I'll send her ass to jail with identity theft, credit card fraud and mail fraud charges.

I'm Here

At my new job - second day. I'm typing this on my new laptop. Way too cool. I have an office with a door and a window! So excited.

Anyway, not here to disclose work info... Just wanted to let you all know that things are getting a little hairy. My mom sent PIL an email yesterday letting her know that she is no longer welcome around our family, and basically chewing her out. She forwarded the email on to my brother, who sent it to my dad, who responded with another angry email. At any rate, my brother is still staying at my parents' house, but everyone is getting mad at him because he hasn't taken any other action. My mom is trying everything to have him file the dissolution papers, but he hasn't done it yet... we'll see what happens.

Had stamping last night and made the announcement that she will no longer be a part of that... it was weird b/c I don't really think anyone was surprised. Strange.

On a really really sad note, I could cry just writing this... We had to get rid of our dog over the weekend. It's so sad. I can't even write the whole thing.

Anyway, gotta run.

Some sense of normalcy

That's all I really want. This crap with PIL is driving me crazy b/c it is consuming my family. My brother is being really dumb about it all, and I just want to slap him silly (as does my mom). I am stopping by the court house today to pick up a dissolution packet for him. He really doesn't have a choice - my family is completely done with her, and she's just a total wack-job. He just keeps saying how he wants her to get help, and this part is easier for him to deal with than when he found out about the affair. I told him that this isn't just about him anymore, and that he has to understand the harm she's done to me and the rest of my family.

It all makes me sick - the show I had to put on after the affair and all the stupid nice shit I did for her and my brother for their wedding, and this is what she does. I just can't understand how anyone thinks to do things like this...

We're heading out to have lunch with Jer at school. I need to go pick up the food, so I have to run. Maddy is sleeping though, so I am going to try to pack everything up and get everything ready before I have to wake her up... :( I hate doing that to her, but we'll be late if i don't. Oh well, have a good weekend everyone!

Confession

Well folks, she has admitted to it. Not to me, not to my brother, but to the investigator working the case. He called to tell me that yesterday. She has 60 days to come up with $6,000 or they will take it criminal with her. I can take it criminal myself because of the identity theft, but MBNA will not go after her until after the 60 days. My brother has taken his dog and a suitcase full of clothes to my parents house. I really hope he goes through with it and just gets an anullment.

Can't post too much now... Maddy is awake and raring to go. We're heading off to go have lunch with my mom at work.

I'll post the rest of the details later... Big drama in the family now. My poor brother....

Peace and Quiet

Maddy is taking a nap. I feel so good today because the damn closet project is done. I think we're going to head to the mall when Mad wakes up. I still have a little bit of work clothes shopping to do, and a few pairs of shoes wouldn't hurt :)

So, some news on the house front. We went and priced out a new home to build in a new city that would be the same amount of driving for both Jerry and I. Perfect location and a really great house. Double the square footage of our current home. They aren't selling lots until next month, but I think we are going to go for it. If all goes well, the house would be done around late May/early June. I'm kind-of excited about it, but petrified at the thought of selling this house. I feel better about it now that I've been home and done some serious cleaning, but I'm still stressed out about the whole process.

I'm super-excited about starting the new job next week. When I went in last week, they were so cool. Everyone seems really excited to have me on board. My lap top is all ready and waiting, and they ordered my new business cards already. I will have a reall office with a door for the first time EVER in my career. That is pretty cool.

I've done some super-cute scrapbook pages for Maddy. STill have tons I want to do, but I'm making progress and I'm happy with what I've done so far.

About the credit card BS - still really don't know anything. PIL is denying it still, but it's without a doubt her. The investigator has been in touch with them, but not with me. I may give them a call today to see what's going on. PIL called off work last week after I called them, and she hasn't contacted me since that night. She hasn't been to any family functions or anything for like 2 weeks. My brother is now seriously considering joining the Marines, and my mom is totally freaking out. I swear that stupid bitch totally deserves to rot in jail, and I honestly hope she gets what's coming to her! She has just hurt my family way too much. And ya know, I want to tell my brother "I told ya so," but he is just so devestated and I think he's in shock. He's talked to a lawyer and is keeping close tabs on his financial situation, but still... I'm being extra careful. Doors are always locked and someone always knows where I'm going. We've changed the security code, and Maddy hasn't left my site, except to be with Jerry's mom last week when I went to the hospital and went to the dentist.

OH well, I'm going go. I have to try to get as much crap done around this house as I can while she's napping.

Hello! I AM Alive!

Hello, everyone. I know it's been a while, but I've been busy and without a computer for a while. At any rate, I'm enjoying my mini vacation before starting my new job next week. Madeline is doing great - I picked an awesome time to be home with her. She cut her first tooth, said "Mama" for the first time AND started crawling this week! Wow.

I've been working on her scrapbook. I cleaned out my closet today - got rid of 6 BIG garbage bags of clothes! You can actually walk in the closet now. Big relief. Went to the dentist and got my permanent crown put on last week. It's gold, and I think it's a little weird, but oh well. Also went to have my physical and everything for the new job last week. I met some of the people I'll be working with, and it just made it all so much more exciting!

I could go on and on about the things I've been doing, but Jer is waiting for me to come to bed. I wasted a bunch of time trying to remember my stupid blogger password info - my old computer at work just automatically put it in there, and I couldn't remember at all.

Anyhow, I'm a busy girl, but thanks to my former co-worker, I am now back online! A big HUGE thanks to her!! :)

I'll post some more tomorrow - hubby will be at work, but who knows how much time Maddy will give me!

Take care! I'll have to take some time later this week to catch up with everyone's posts! A whole week without the Internet is sheer torture, seriously.

Psycho

Well, today is my last day at work. I'm a little sad, but really excited to have two weeks off! I could write a sappy post today, but I won't because there is an even bigger fiasco going on in my life...

I didn't post yesterday b/c I was too busy making phone calls and taking care of a BIG problem. On Weds. night I got a call from a credit card company alerting me that there is a credit card in my maiden name with a balance over $8,000 that is 16 months overdue! WTF? So, I freak out because it's total fraud and it's not me. The card has been used during the last year and a half, AND payments have been made on it! The payments were made from another checking account at my bank. They gave me the last four digits of the account number - not my account. They also asked if I had lived at these two other addresses, which I did not, but they happen to be the addresses of my brother and BIL (who we will now refer to as PIL - psycho-in-law). So, I flip out and ask what I'm supposed to do and start making phone calls.

I called my brother, because I just innocently thought there had to some weird computer glitch or mistake or something. Well, the payments were made from their account. Yeah, those four digits matched. OK? So, my brother freaks and asks me to talk to PIL b/c she handles their finances. She doesn't quite have the same freak-out reaction. She just says, "I don't know. We have so many cards, I'd have to check." WTF????????????? You don't know if you have an $8,000 balance on a credit card?????????? OK. So, the lady at the credit card company said they would look into and get back to me, but told me to call yesterday and file a fraud report. So, I did that.

I pulled up my credit report to find out more about this, and it shows me the balance history, the account number and some other info. The fraud people told me where the last few charges were made (at the outlet mall where her sister used to work). They also said they would pull a copy of the check that made the last payment. I told them about the addresses being my brother's, and I asked if there could be some mistake. They told me, "No, the only way this happened is that someone is using a card with your name on it. Your ss# has been compromised, and the person is able to verify your mom's maiden name."

Now, I did not accuse anyone of anything. I didn't really attack anyone or anything, but I turned it over to the investigators, who will get to the bottom of it and get back to me in a week. They asked if I would be willing to file a police report against whomever did this, and I said, "yes."

Now, I'm not stupid and I know that nobody would believe my brother was me. I also know that my brother is not smart enough to go online and update the address for the bill (yes, the address has been updated through the years b/c the account has been open for 5 years!) He doesn't handle their finances at all - she does.

So, my brother is feeling really bad. She's denying it, but he doesn't totally believe her.

We're not doing anything about it until the investigator confirms it, but we're pretty sure the psycho is pretending to be me and racking up charges and not paying the bills. So, yes, the bitch could go to jail and their marriage could be annulled and ya know - what went around, might actually come around to her!

I'm really creeped out by it all, because if she really did do this - it's really freaky and I think she has some mental obsession with wanting my life. I think that's why she did what she did with my husband, and I think she has always wanted everything that I have.

In retrospect there have been other things that could have been part of her mental problems - wanting my dad to be her cotillion escort (as he had done the cotillion with me two years prior), always making comments about me being the "princess of the family" and then getting upset when the same things were not done for her, just dumb stuff. But ya know, if she really has this obsession and jealous dilusions, then it makes me scared for Maddy's safety and you can bet your ass it will be a cold day in hell before she will be spending any time near my baby.

I feel horrible for my brother, and I'm trying hard not to be 100% sure that it's her. He's talked to me about the "what if's" and he's freaking out. I don't want him to get hurt, but if it means that in the end, our family is safe and her true colors finally are shown to the rest of the world, than so be it.

So my life went from a dimented Jerry Springer episode to a fucking scary movie! Garage codes have been changed and every door in my house gets locked the second I get in - I really just want to get to the bottom of it all.

2 More Days!

2 more days and I'm outta here! Oh, I cannot wait to spend two whole weeks that cute little baby of mine! She slept through the entire night last night and was in the best mood ever when she woke up this morning. I was almost late to work b/c I spent too much time playing with her. I thinks he's feeling better - she had a bit of a cold these last few days.

Anyhow, hubby is driving me nuts with this moving/house hunting business. We've discussed this a million times, and we've decided more than once that we would wait to make any decisions until I've made the drive a few times and have gotten settled into my new job. HOWEVER, he still proceeds to look up houses and email and call me every day with places he wants to go look at... it was fun at first, but now it's becoming annoying.

I have the headache from hell today. Oh my gosh. I can't stand it, but I can tell you that I think the source of it sits in the cubicle next to me...

I want to pull all of my hair out!

So this is my last week here at the old job. I've been doing my best to get things wrapped up and finish the projects I agreed to finish. OK, now let me preface this with the fact that I agreed to stay on for 3 weeks, instead of the customary 2. That being said, why the hell is my boss giving me new shit to do????????????? I am so mad. I just want to be done and get the hell out of here. Friday is my last day. There are little parties and lunches scheduled the rest of the week for goodbyes, and I just want to enjoy these last few days. BUT NO WAY. Instead, I am getting more stress and more work and I am super annoyed.

Sorry - just had to vent.

P.S.
In 20 minutes I am supposed to have lunch with above mentioned boss. I'll just have to suck it up.

Another Picture

Madeline's 6 Mos. Portraits

On Saturday, my mom and I took Maddy for her six month pictures. We did 4 outfits, 80 pictures and picked out the ones we wanted in under an hour! These people were amazing. I went in there for a $9.95 package and walked out $200 later. They were just too good. Here are just a couple of them. They are way better ones, and I tried to post them yesterday, but it wouldn't work. Not sure what the problem is... Anyhow, is she not absolutely adorable?